Tuesday, October 09, 2007

And We're Back.

Got back from vacation Sunday night. Went back to work Monday morning. Monday, as we were were getting ready, H and I would catch each other's eye and say "this is so surreal." Because it was.

I wouldn't say my vacation was GREAT, but it was emotionally intense. (I had to check into a hospital on Tuesday to have my blood done.) The vaca was planned before I was sure of the math on the cycle. I kept hoping my cycle would last a bit longer and my bedrest would correspond with the vacation, but it all worked out okay.

Down to business.

Thank you, a million times thank you, for your reassuring words about no damage done. I go in for a scan next week (the 18th) and I will mention the punching. In the meantime, I now have an arm in front of me when I deal with Mama.

For those of you who posted (and for those of you who thought it, but didn't post) Mama is not nursing home eligible. Yup. That's right. The US government does not think that she is sick enough to warrant 24-hour care, and/or a nursing home. We're not saints or martyrs. We checked. She's "not sick enough."

Please note: there are a million "assisted living" and such facilities out there. But we'd have to pay for that. Two to three thousand dollars a month. But M.edi.cai.d won't kick in because she doesn't "need it." Now, if she keeps PUNCHING, and behaves inappropriately with children, THEN we may a new point to argue. But currently, no.

H made an appointment with her doctor next Tuesday. I offered to take off work and go with, but H didn't want me along. You almost have to feel sorry for H's boss -- on Tuesday, H is coming in late because of Mama, and on Thursday, H is coming in late because of me.

In other news, H is convinced I'm starting to show. Mama, I think, agrees with him, as she was QUITE aggressive about telling me HOW FAT I was this morning. (She tried to take my morning oatmeal away from me, telling me to have just toast. Because I need to lose weight, she says.)


I'm incredibly nervous abut the scan. Largely because I'VE NEVER BEEN THIS FAR BEFORE and I don't know what to expect. I always ALWAYS thought this cycle was going to be the "dry run," just to get everyone used to me in my new clinic. I never EVER expected to be this far.


Delenn said...

I am so glad you had a good vacation. And I would say I am surprised about the issues with nursing home and assisted living--but, unfortunately, having been through it with 2 of my grandparents, I know that what you are facing is all too common. (My grandmother had to divorce my grandfather so he could qualify to be indigent.)

I am so sorry this is such a difficult situation for you and your husband! Its already emotionally a rollercoaster, but the whole mess of trying to get proper care...ARGH!!

However, I am a strong believer in things working themselves out...so I will hope that things do for you and yours. I will keep you in my thoughts.

Good luck on the scan!!

Familyof2 said...

Ugh w/the insurance issue. I had no idea. Bugger. You have to love insurance don't ya *yes that was meant sarcastically*

Glad you are home. Try to relax, I know easier said than done...but try none the less...hopefully momma lets you eat dinner in peace!

Heather said...

Don't even get me started on the "medical community" as far as taking care of our elderly...

I hope you find a great solution to make everyone feel better.

My Reality said...

Welcome home! I hope you get things sorted out with Mama. I can't believe you can't get any assistance because she isn't sick enough.

I am wishing you lots of luck with the scan.

Von said...

Thought that might have been the case with the full-time nursing care. It's just shit. Getting her re-assessed might be a good thing. What a bloody nightmare for you.
I am sure you will get to your scan date, no problem and look forward to hearing some good news.

Bea said...

It sounds like you're making the best of your situation with MIL, and I only wish it was easier. Reassessment is an option if need be.

The eighteenth - I can't wait to hear your news then!


Beagle said...

The medical system can be so frustrating on so many fronts.

Good Luck with your scan!

Sunny Jenny said...

Glad you're safely back! Hope your scan goes well and you see a healthy, growing baby.

Pamela Jeanne said...

What a crime that you have to face this set of competing needs with no relief in sight. I feel for you, truly, and hope that next week's scan puts your mind at ease.

JAMs Wife said...

I am glad your vacation went well. I hope you are able to get Mama re-assessed. Not that putting her in an assissting living environment would be easy, but if you can get a case worker on your side, especially with the baby coming I am sure it would take a lot of the stress off you.